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Looking for engagement from my fellow Trans people.

Hello, you beautiful stranger. I recently decided to try to resurrect my old FB account after like 5 years to work on some real local community. I purged 3/4 of my friends list (didn't grow up in a trans-friendly environment), and opened up my pictures to start removing things, and... I can't.

I can't look at them without it feeling painful. But I also can't imagine myself deleting pictures of such big things - my engagement, years of wonderful dates with my now-wife, pictures with my old cat from before he passed - damn near every picture feels like sandpaper on my soul to see, but even worse to delete.

Any advice on what the heck to do from anyone who has been there?

Thanks 🩵🏳️‍⚧️

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[–] Who_Knows@lemmy.blahaj.zone 4 points 3 weeks ago

Hello friends, I read everything and thought about it and acted on it, and wanted to comment the resolution.

First, thank you all SO much for your care and advice! 🩵🏳️‍⚧️

I made a folder to drag the old pictures into, but I was still having trouble on the emotional side when I tried actually doing it. I talked to my partner about the struggle, and she offered to save then delete them for me, and then to go in and untag anything with my face. I gratefully accepted, and she did it. Problem solved (with help and extra steps)

Thank you all, wonderful humans!