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[–] peopleproblems@lemmy.world 1 points 2 months ago (3 children)

Ok so presume I am doing level 2, how do I get interactions to respond to

[–] zerozaku@lemmy.world 3 points 2 months ago (2 children)

I think they happen naturally if you are visiting same place weekly at the same time. The waiter/cashier/or anyone who is regular to that coffee shop would try to initiate some interaction with you.

[–] peopleproblems@lemmy.world 3 points 2 months ago

You have given me an idea! Thank uou

[–] aStonedSanta@lemm.ee 2 points 2 months ago

This is a good idea. Also if you find an employee that is nice. Tell them the truth. You are trying to work on socializing. You’d be surprised a lot of people really are happy to help you if you ask for help 💜

[–] couch1potato@lemmy.dbzer0.com 1 points 2 months ago

I had to practice saying good morning to people.

[–] aStonedSanta@lemm.ee 1 points 2 months ago (1 children)

I’ve found when I’m feeling comfortable in public I notice other people’s belongings and can relate it to why I might want to interact with them.

Like if at the store I see someone with a band T-shirt I like I’ll try to just mention to them I’m a big fan and like their shirt. Is it gonna crate a friendship? Who the fuck knows. But I spoke to a stranger. And it wasn’t weird it felt friendly and nice 😊

[–] peopleproblems@lemmy.world 1 points 2 months ago (1 children)

Actually the one time I spoke to a girl in the past 6 months was about her BMW. We actually had a good short conversation. What was funny is that when I asked her "hey, is that your BMW?" Because I didn't see her get out of it - her response was "Yes, why?!?!" In a bit of a panic. So even bumpy landings work.

Thanks for that bit.

Maybe I'll go to a local coffee place and just order my white chocolate mocha, and do it enough to say things to people.

[–] aStonedSanta@lemm.ee 1 points 2 months ago

Yes! People might respond with initial anxiety and fear. Simply due to surprise. But I’ve found smiling and calm tone can help transfer that into a normal exchange rather than me freaking out internally this person now thinks I’m a rapist/murder cause I said hello 😆