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Women of Lemmy, do you mind being called cute? (lemm.ee)

submitted 3 months ago by ramble81@lemm.ee to c/asklemmy@lemmy.ml

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Or do you prefer other adjectives? Do you consider it to be insulting or do you take it for a compliment if it was meant as one? (Assume an amenable relationship between the two people, not a random stranger or creeper)

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[–] Kattiydid@slrpnk.net 60 points 3 months ago (2 children)

Like a handful of other people in the comments I never dress up or wear makeup, it's black pants and a t-shirt for me. It's usually a graphic t-shirt that is silly so if someone's like "oh cute t-shirt" sure, that's fine. But if they're talking to me specifically cute feels infantilizing. I'm a 33-Year-Old woman, I either look fine, nice, beautiful, or like a deranged raccoon holding a knife.

[–] sunbrrnslapper@lemmy.world 34 points 3 months ago (2 children)

I often look like a deranged raccoon holding a knife - and am excited the look is catching on! 😉

[–] Kattiydid@slrpnk.net 6 points 3 months ago

It's the best look!

[–] BudgetBandit@sh.itjust.works 6 points 3 months ago

I once was on some winter event with a lot of people and a deranged raccoon of the party tried on some hat with double Pom-poms, I told her it makes her look cute, but this is, as some people have already written, context-specific.

[–] Carighan@lemmy.world 8 points 3 months ago (1 children)

Are those in increasing compliment order? In that case, I can say with confidence that your post sounds like you're a deranged raccoon holding a knife!

[–] Kattiydid@slrpnk.net 7 points 3 months ago

Awww, thank you!!!