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That just because someone treats you better than you’ve ever been treated before, does NOT mean that they are treating you WELL.
If you were bullied or abused as a kid, do some actual reading about what’s normal and healthy, and get out of a situation immediately if there are any even slightly concerning signs. No second chances, no guilt, no self blame, just go.
I learned this for work, too.
Added to that: your company will let you go without warning. If they've proved this, then they deserve nothing better. Since then I have ab-sol-ute-ly no qualms about bailing without warning.
Right‽
2 jobs ago, I left with essentially 3 days warning because I was fucking miserable (this gave me a week off between jobs).
The last job I left, I negotiated a 3 week gap, so I'd be able to give a two-week notice AND take a week off because I genuinely liked the job and the people I was working with, but I fell into an opportunity too good to pass up.
A super important life lesson is to always put yourself and your mental health before the company.
I got some life advice somewhere, I don't remember where, that was essentially: Don't craft a well-thought-out argument against somebody that John Brown would have shot AND never give two weeks notice to a company that makes you miserable and it has been life changing.
That is amazing advice, and I will try and fail to put the first to good use here on lemmy with these fucking trolls.
This should be the norm. Companies usually don't care enough about you. They try to nurture loyalty in order to keep wages down while a few up in the hierarchy reap most of the rewards of your hard work.
If you were lying in the death bed, you probably wouldn't look back and think: "oh gee, I wish I would've worked more!"
So always put yourself first over some company.