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Sorry for the potentially controversial question: is it normal for less attractive people to settle down with partners they don't find physically attractive? (sh.itjust.works)

submitted 3 months ago by RebiJes@sh.itjust.works to c/asklemmy@lemmy.ml

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[–] andrewta@lemmy.world 36 points 3 months ago (2 children)

You should never date someone you aren’t attracted to. That won’t end well. That doesn’t mean they have to be a ten but you have to be attracted to them

[–] Valmond@lemmy.world 8 points 3 months ago (1 children)

What about when you get older.

Personality, sharing hobbies etc is extremely important in the long run, way more than drooling about someone.

Sure, good/ok looks is important but that's not all.

[–] fine_sandy_bottom@discuss.tchncs.de 4 points 3 months ago (1 children)

This.

In this thread everyone is going to be single from 40 onwards apparently.

[–] CanadaPlus@lemmy.sdf.org 2 points 3 months ago (1 children)

I've heard some people develop a taste for older-looking people as they age.

[–] fine_sandy_bottom@discuss.tchncs.de 1 points 3 months ago (1 children)

Sure "some", but not many.

For most people I think that other attributes become more desirable than physical beauty. The biological imperative to reproduce with the most physically attractive person you can find diminishes significantly.

[–] RBWells@lemmy.world 1 points 3 months ago

I'm older and would argue most people's taste ages up with them. Like to make a current example the Turkish shooter looks attractive to me, the Pommel horse guy looks attractive to my daughter.

Not sure how long that lasts, may be reaching the outer bound, but no way do the younger guys look attractive to me, and hell yes good looking guys my age do look good to me.

[–] Asafum@feddit.nl 1 points 3 months ago* (last edited 3 months ago)

I tried. It doesn't work at all and you just end up hurting that person.

I'm not handsome by any stretch of the imagination, but I still can't find honey booboos mom attractive, so I have to stay single.

I'm also just an absolute waste of oxygen, joke of a human being so there's that too lol