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We’re autistic, and one of the characteristics of being autistic is that we feel things deeply. On the positive side, when we are happy, we feel immense joy compared to others. On the negative side, we feel painful emotions more strongly than others as well. Because of this, many of us have been invalidated, insulted, or pushed away when all we were wanting was to share what we were going through and get support. Maybe even a really tight hug and someone telling us that it makes sense that we feel that way.

While we can’t give hugs, we can help each other by sharing our pain and having others help us through it. So here is that post. What’s bothering you? Why? Tell us.

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[–] savvywolf@pawb.social 0 points 11 months ago (1 children)

Firstly, I want to say that this has nothing to do with things I said recently in the age limit thread; these are things I've been worried about for a while now. Basically, some things are really bothering me right now.

  1. I've been increasingly annoyed at the double standards of rules. The thing where the rules clearly say one thing, yet everyone looks the other way unless people draw explicit negative attention to themselves. In many cases I like that they aren't being as strict with rules as they say they are (because the rules as written kinda suck). But for the love of god, please just say what the actual rules are.
  2. I'm getting really worried about a hypothetical situation that I feel could be disastrous for me. It's very unlikely to play out how I think it will in my head, but it's possible. All the anxiety cocktails in my brain are burning away hyperfocusing on it.
  3. Could we please, as a society, just stop all the fear and stigma around sex and sexuality? Like... Just stop.
  4. I'm nearly thirty and haven't been in a relationship yet. I spend basically all my time indoors talking to the same few people and posting angry rants on social media. I'm now not in anywhere near a good enough mental state to go out and talk to people.
  5. Probably other stuff. I have a lot of issues.

But yeah, I've been in a bad headspace this past few months and I don't feel I have good enough coping mechanisms. Spent the past few weeks trying to set up some coping mechanisms with a counsellor. Been feeling a lot like I'm repeatedly burning out, over and over, by worrying and stressing about things.

I don't feel like my issues are anywhere near as serious as other people's, but it's really messing me up just the same. ;_;

[–] gandalf_der_12te@feddit.de 0 points 11 months ago

Yeah, life does give one lemons sometimes. I'm sorry for your unfortunate circumstances. I have been in very deep shit as well. One feels treated unfairly. Society as a whole has many problems. One of them is unleashing all its anger on a few, innocent individuals. Please remember, that a lot of your problems are not your fault, and there is no point in feeling bad for them.

As to the sexuality: I completely get your point. People are weird when it comes to sex. I believe that a lot of people have emotional problems, just that they don't express most of the time. But when it comes to sex, they can't hide it anymore. That is why so many people are so completely weird when it comes to sex.

I would suggest looking out for people who are emotionally healthy, like girls who are truly satisfied with themself. I believe that they are emotionally stronger, and therefore have fewer issues overall, especially deep inside; Which is relevant when you want to have a long-term relationship with them. That is just my piece of advice, I hope it gives you some clarity.