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People who have been through tough timew, how did you keep moving? (lemmy.one)

submitted 1 year ago by DrPop@lemmy.one to c/asklemmy@lemmy.ml

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I'm a week late on rent due, I only paid half, I had to call all my credit card companies and utilities to tell them what's going on. And now my check engine light turned on because the bastard is misfiring. My wife lost her dad which fucked us both up due to missing a ton of work, and I don't know what to do. I'm tired of asking my family for help, the for bank is only available while I'm working, I work 2 jobs. My wife is working too and we're even took in a person to live in our spare room.

How in the world do people survive in this world when they don't even have time to be happy? I use upside for gas and shopping I'm enrolled in every stores rewards program, I make my own cleaning supplies to save money and cook from scratch. What else could I do to save money? Also with the looming government shutdown I'm going to be furloughed for however long that is. Also what are some apps you guys use to help save money? I guess this is a lot of questions.

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[–] Helix@feddit.de 0 points 1 year ago* (last edited 1 year ago)

My dad once told me a sentence that stuck with me ever since:

Somehow everything always continues to be.

In German though, he said "irgendwie geht es immer weiter".

Meaning that even if your rent is due and you can't pay, you're not on the streets tomorrow. And if you land on the streets, you still find shelter and have a wife which can console you. And if you don't find shelter, you still continue to live. You will always live.

There is always a tomorrow and somehow you'll manage to reach it, unless you die at some point. That point is usually way, way farther out than you could imagine.

The stuff I lived through sometimes looked like I wouldn't survive, but I did. Homeless people survive every day.

Regarding happiness, it's hard for people who experienced long times of it to finally realise that they were lucky and there's just periods of happiness to be found. Sometimes those periods are just moments. Cherish them. The small things. Fresh air, sun, a cuddle, some discount allowing you to get something nice for your wife.

What else could I do to save money?

Engage less in your job and use the free time to search for better opportunities. Capitalism keeps its low wage workers occupied so they don't unionize or search for better jobs, it keeps them poor so they can be exploited with high interest loans. If you can find a way around that, exploit the people which are higher up than you. Always steal from the rich, because that's repossession.