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In my very limited experience, the one characteristic that seems pretty universal to incels is the inability to have casual, no pressure small talk with anyone, especially with those of the opposite gender (or whatever gender you like).
Small talk is a skill like anything else. It must be practiced and honed. The easiest way to do this is just by being interested in what the person is saying. You don't have to be funny or quippy. Just be curious about their life and you'll find that most of small talk is just being able to go back and forth about a topic.
It seems like incels, or at least Tate-holes, treat every conversation as a challenge with the reward being sex.
Just be friends with people. Who fucking cares if you end up in a romantic relationship, allow yourself to form close intimate friendships that aren't physical.
Awesome! I scored 6 conversation points, I can redeem my punch card for sex now!
Oh you didn't hear about the pricing update.... Sex costs 15 now, but you can redeem 6 for a hug if you ask nicely.