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Maybe it will even happen before California HSR!

I'll add dancing to this list. It's certainly possible to just show up, do the steps, and leave, but it's an atmosphere where talking to people is very easy.

If you go to a class for a few weeks/months, you'll start hearing about other classes, or events. You also might end up finding that you have other connections with some people who you dance with.

I speak from experience here. I'm not very good at people, started dancing for that reason, and my time dancing has helped noticably, according to an old, long distance friend.

You're arguing that the actions of individuals have no impact on the collective actions of humanity, the sum of 8 billion individuals.

Similarly, you probably never had a conversation where someone said "Gee, I'll stop burning fossil fuels now!" But when you use public transportation, or patronize businesses on foot, policy makers are motivated to continue supporting such options. Not for you personally, but for you and others like you.

I prefer to donate time. I'm now president of one local non-profit (in addition to my paying job), and a regular participant in another. Sometimes I'll donate supplies that we need, but never money.

If a time comes when I have little time and a lot of money, maybe I'll switch. Donors are necessary. But I know that we need hands more than dollars.

Why do you think BP produces emissions? They may be evil, but it's not out of malice, it's for profit. People, like the 26 million residents of Australia, pay BP to give them more fossil fuels.

A top-down response, where governments just outlaw all extraction and burning of fossil fuels, would be a lovely, quick solution to the climate crisis. By all means, try and make that happen, but I wouldn't hold my breath.

One thing you can do today to make an impact is to adjust your lifestyle to give less money to the fossil fuel industry. An individual carbon footprint is small compared with a company, just like the money they give to BP is relatively small, when compared with their total profits. But when you add up all the customers, their money adds up to the revenue of the industry, and their carbon footprints add up to the footprints of the relevant companies.

I'm doing quite well. About a month ago I broke up with my ex, but since then I've done the following:

1. Signed up for a performance dance class (I was already dancing, mostly to get more social)
2. Made a connection there, so now the son of a woman I dance with is helping me fix bikes to give away
3. Hosted two groups of guests riding their bicycles past my home (strangers, who I've enjoyed talking with)
4. Put in more hours with the bike rescue, building some stronger bonds with people there
5. Found out that one newish friend is planning on moving away. Boo hoo
6. Completed a lot of DIY work for a kitchen remodel

So I am single, and likely to remain that way for a while. But I feel quite fulfilled, and I feel like I'm in a position to develop more, stronger friendships, platonic or otherwise. It has been an effort to get to this point, and the journey is far from over, but I'm happy to see progress.