I work a full-time job and my partner is a university student. I didn't try to mess with their sleep because I didn't know they wanted to go to bed earlier than they usually do. If I had known I wouldn't have been late.
kintsugikid
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My partner has actually stated that they think they might be autistic so this could very much be the case.
Thank you <3 <3 <3
The dishes are my responsibility as it's my partner who usually does the cooking and I do the dishes. But you're 100% correct about there being some important questions I have to ask myself.
We do actually already sleep in separate rooms (I maybe should have mentioned this in my post) but the problem is that I’m a bit of a clumsy little troll and even when I’m trying hard to be quiet there’s a high chance I’m bump into something or drop something and wake them up.
We do actually already sleep in separate rooms (I maybe should have mentioned this in my post) but the problem is that I'm a bit of a clumsy little troll and even when I'm trying hard to be quiet there's a high chance I'm bump into something or drop something and wake them up.
Thank you so much. I think my partner does understand that ADHD is a severe disability but even though they tell me that they don't expect me to become like a person who doesn't have ADHD I feel like they don't understand that even when I'm trying my best I will do things that are maybe forgetful or don't make sense to them at so some extent that has to be OK. Not grudgingly accepted but OK. I'm really trying my best and I know there are still behaviors and patterns I struggle with (I still tend to immediately give excuses when I forgot something instead of just saying I forgot) but I'm really trying. But I'm never going to not have ADHD.
Yeah sleep is super emotional for them because it plays such a huge role for their well-being. The migraine attacks they suffer are crippling and often accompanied by vertigo - it's seriously not a joke and as a person who's sensitive to sound myself when I want to sleep I can totally relate.
Yeah, it is kind of a weird sentence. The thing is, I spend most evenings at home anyway - reading or watching films - so I'm usually in bed quite early myself. And when they have an exhausting day coming up (as was the case) it's even less of an issue because I want to do what I can to help them have a good night's sleep. But I do sometimes feel like I'm in an unwinnable situation and we have already several times reached a point where we thought things between us didn't have a future... maybe that's something to come to terms with. We've been together for 10 years and the first few years were very good but now it feels like a completely different life and the good memories a distant echo.
Cuddling has become a thing of the past :(
I would love to attend couples therapy but it's so expensive :( I've suggested it in the past but (a) it's really expensive and (b) my partner wasn't enthusiastic because they said the main issue was my untreated ADHD, so the primary focus should be on me learning to manage my ADHD. But I think simply because our relationship has already taken so much damage, therapy would definitely be good. I don't know if we still have a future tbh but if we do I will tell them again that I 100% want to do couples therapy.
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We already sleep in separate rooms but I'm a clumsy person and when I come home I can't guarantee I won't accidentally drop something or bump into something and wake them up. I'd love to be quiet like a ninja but I'm really very much not.