Yes. Of course. I fail to see where I suggested not softening the rejection. 🤷♂️
I write "You can't make them take your no for an answer, they have to choose to do that. It's not a matter of politeness and it's not your responsibility." and people draw conclusions based on facts not in evidence. That. Is. My. Point. Whatever you try to do, they'll find a way to find you rude, so don't take responsibility for that.
Moreover, let's also remember that a less-polite "no" is still a "no", and people need to learn to respect those, too. A sharper "no" is very often the result of 100 attempts to be polite and still be considered rude.
What does the cat drink?