ellabee

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[–] ellabee@sh.itjust.works 5 points 6 days ago

not the guy you asked, but I just got a trike.

  1. I have balance issues so I've never been able to balance a regular bike.
  2. carrying capacity with a basket.

there are definitely options to address the carry capacity with a bike, but I haven't seen anything to assist with balance.

[–] ellabee@sh.itjust.works 2 points 1 week ago (1 children)

yeah, I do.

I was a kid on free and reduced lunch. there's stigma around being poor enough to need it, and I was bullied for it. my home life was sufficiently dysfunctional that it could be the only food I ate that day, and there were still times I'd rather be hungry than bullied.

so in the interest of removing something kids can be bullied over, sure. tax the rich more, and let a relatively tiny bit of our taxes buy every child at least one meal a day.

-childless taxpayer

[–] ellabee@sh.itjust.works 7 points 2 weeks ago

my grandparents have passed away now, but when i knew them they were unfailingly polite in public.

in private, Grandma had reservations about japanese people. i gave her leeway. Pearl Harbor was bombed on her birthday, and Grandpa went to Iwo Jima. i still felt i could bring a japanese boyfriend around, and as long as i was happy, he'd be treated right. Grandpa didn't even suggest reservations. he took everyone as an individual worthy of respect until their behavior suggested differently.

my parents are in their 60s now, but i don't have contact with them for other reasons. the last time i looked at my mom's twitter i thought she had been hacked, the MAGA rhetoric she was spewing was so awful. not hacked, just an asshole.

[–] ellabee@sh.itjust.works 4 points 2 weeks ago (1 children)

thinking OP shouldn't be in the comments is so weird. you should start a conversation but not take part?

in any case, i check the comments here to see what new interesting things i can learn!

[–] ellabee@sh.itjust.works 4 points 2 weeks ago

ferrets are like kittens that never become cats. they get a little slower with age, but given they start like they're running 3 times faster than the rest of the world, it's not noticeable until you get a young ferret again.

 
[–] ellabee@sh.itjust.works 1 points 1 month ago

definitely not. i hope you can find something to help.

[–] ellabee@sh.itjust.works 8 points 1 month ago (2 children)

imagine you start to get your shit together, start some habits to get you on a better footing, and then there's a week where you just can't every month. and maybe there's also a mid-month slump, because hormones suck.

i didn't see a therapist until i had one weekend to run all the errands, see doctors and vets, clean the house up... there was just the one weekend where i was sure i'd have enough of an upswing.

-general anxiety and depression diagnosis, plus PMDD (pre-menstrual dysphoria disorder), the drugs are great and i'm better now

[–] ellabee@sh.itjust.works 2 points 1 month ago

my grandpa used commode, but i haven't heard it from anyone younger. grandpa was a Depression era kid, and the family was poor to begin with.

he also said "shorts" instead of "underpants", which caused my brother who only wore long pants some confusion and trouble.

[–] ellabee@sh.itjust.works 4 points 1 month ago

you mean the thing where people, often women, have spent decades trying to expose the abuse happening in private homes, and trying to get it addressed?

because that's what happened. women's voices, speaking about marital rape and domestic abuse. getting the political power to change laws, to make it illegal, and give domestic victims the means to escape. it also surfaced the child abuse, again. it's just not been buried again yet.

[–] ellabee@sh.itjust.works 5 points 1 month ago

if one of these just ramps up the anxiety, skip that sense and do the others. trying to pick 5 things i can see is. ..not useful. ..in a panic attack. but closing my eyes and doing the others does help. it took a very long time before someone suggested skipping sight to me, so i share the insight whenever this method is suggested.

[–] ellabee@sh.itjust.works 28 points 1 month ago

my cat loses it if she wakes up and can't see me. I live in a studio. there aren't a lot of "out of sight" options. at one point, there was just a screen between me, in my computer chair, and her, on the bed. we still did the whole call and response.

she doesn't look for me, she just starts yelling until I respond.

 
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