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Do any of y'all experience species dysphoria? If so what are some ways that it can be dealt with?

Feeling it a bit today.

Do any of y'all tire of the way games handle relationships? There's pratically no ethically non-monogamy built into most games and even if there is there's either no recognition of your relationships or there's jealousy from the other characters you are involved with.

Mods help a little but there's usually no recognition or discussions. There are two games that have frustrated me in recent memory.

One is BG3 when I tried to date both Lae'zel and Shadowheart and Shadowheart angrily told me she wasn't "going to be my sidepiece" when that was far from how I saw her or what I actually wanted.

The other that frustrated me is Coral Island since yes you can date more than one person but the game really pushes marriage for reward, if only for an achievement probably and I find that really disheartening that these games are always built this way, can we please have some thought for those of us that don't do things the ways developers biases expect and recognition of how meaningful these relationships can still be, even if we were dating the entire village?!

Not allowing multiple partners (or even if they do, not multiple spouses if the game insists on only allowing certain content or rewards for getting married) shows such a monogamous and scarcity mindset from the developers that I find shocking and kind of disgusting, though sadly unsurprising. Let me sit down with the characters and let me explain what I'd like, not just assume I'm using you because I don't actually like you... please!

I really wish there was more not only ethical nonmonogamy in games but more realistic actual R.A. where we could discuss what we all what. Some might see this as a silly pipe dream or fulfilling a fantasy, but really I think to me at least it's because representation matters and I want to see myself reflected in these games, not just have to accept monogamy or if the game insists on marriage then only one marriage and then 0 other marraiges, partners or important people to me.

What do y'all think?

A great piece of music in my opinion, covering various genres and styles.

A much needed reminder that Machine Learning and Large Language Models (so called 'AI') is plagiarism, don't necessarily agree it's theft in the strict legal definition (but definitely in the colloquial meaning), but it's definitely immoral and unethical and the used by those that want to contribute nothing themselves.

Very useful video and a good reminder for those of us who are autistic, neurodivergent folks who aren't autistic and neurotypicals.

I found this thoroughly interesting as it goes into how no matter how women dress it is never our/their fault for having bad things happen to them/being objectified etc which I wholeheartedly agree with.

Wondering if any of y'all are using the polyamory mod and if so who are you dating/married to?

If y'all don't know what I mean then I mean this: https://www.nexusmods.com/stardewvalley/mods/20599

Another great video from Shanspeare, this time about Matt Rife.

Warnings for: Examples of awfulness against folks with insecure attachment styles (mostly avoidant), video opens on a sarcastic/satire 'bit' but the creator isn't serious, the gender binary (by the examples the creator shows, not the creator himself), traumatic situations that may have happened when any viewers to this were a child, saying all insecure attachment styles are unhealthy (but in a nice way from a place of understanding imo).

Hi, we're plural and alterbeing/exist as nonhuman.

So I was wondering if others here were that too or mostly otherkin.

I, personally am a faerie and would totally transition if I could, I have been considering some medical things but for the rest I use technology.

Therefore I consider myself transspecies, I hope that is an accepted term here as I don't think it's dangerous/bad but I have run into many who have disliked me for using it or the term itself.

Hi fellow relationship anarchists, how are you all doing?

I noticed there are really only link posts in this community, so thought I'd say hi and ask how did you come to R.A and how it's going for you?