GhostFence

joined 9 months ago
[–] GhostFence@lemmy.world 4 points 2 months ago

Nah I've experienced that myself. I spent years kicking myself for taking 'no' as 'no' from this one girl (we were teens) only to be told she wanted me to keep persisting. It took a long time for me to realize that she wasn't worth it.

[–] GhostFence@lemmy.world 7 points 2 months ago (1 children)
[–] GhostFence@lemmy.world 0 points 6 months ago (1 children)

Any idea why they're asexual? That seems strange for all three to be like that, to say the least. Though in this world if I were their age? From what I've heard and seen I might become that way after a while!

[–] GhostFence@lemmy.world 1 points 7 months ago

You'd think this would be common sense...

[–] GhostFence@lemmy.world -1 points 7 months ago

Oh I'm worried about that, too, especially the right wing shit. But if he's having trouble dating that's not exactly something I'd just brush off. That can have some bad consequences, too, boys can get into dangerous risk-taking for girls or get roped into incel stuff... and right wing shit, too.

 

It's from Netflix's "Damsel". That's all I'm gonna say. Watch it, IDGAF what you think of the movie, 11 is hardcore af. And if you saw the movie... can you handle it? I know at my age I couldn't anymore.

 

I just finished watching the depressing ending of Risen 2021 and the instant the end credits started I was hit with a realization - wasn't this what happened during the Great Oxygen Catastrophe? Anaerobic life existed on this planet for ~1.5 billion years before cyanobacteria came along. It wasn't alien life that did it but doesn't make much difference to me. I mean I appreciate (most of) my fellow humans but we're here because some microbes decided to terraform the planet, heedless of the planet-wide ecosystem they were destroying or the life that depended on it.

Anaerobic bacteria aren't humans and I'm sure they didn't have armies or scientists to realize they were doomed but at the bottom of it, life is life and extinction is extinction.

That crappy movie sure got me to thinking. To borrow a concept from Mark Twain, our actual history rhymes with this movie. Anyone else notice the parallels?

[–] GhostFence@lemmy.world 0 points 9 months ago (1 children)

Its merely an alternative to the existing US model of financial credit. The “nightmare” is only real for people who enjoy high levels of disposable income/high credit but low levels of social status. And, given how social status is already a critical component of one’s economic standing, this just isn’t a large number of people.

Are you sure it's only real for high-income/low social status people? Even if so it won't stay that way. The main goal of dystopian politics in America is to cull the herd of demand when supply is low or when supply is artificially suppressed (like with housing). Got too many people with money and great credit pursuing homes with houses going up to a godzillion per square foot in the outback of Montana? Pinch the pipeline before or after they show good credit and money: add more barriers to entry with Facebook scanning. Let the algorithms look for things like "labor union" or "climate change is real" to weed them out, and disqualify anyone with no Facebook, and make sure no one knows this algorithm exists, just say "Sorry, you got outbid," Hell, don't even CALL it a social credit system. Let the conspiracy theorists battle each other over what's going on.

(Yes, I am a Supervillain University Professor. See my course on how to laugh maniacally and be taken seriously.)

I'd further calibrate what you said to this: the solution in the US is to organize with your fellow Americans at large and vote for politicians who will stop the commodification of empty homes before the powers that be start downgrading your standing as a prospective home buyer based on your Facebook profile.

[–] GhostFence@lemmy.world 0 points 9 months ago (3 children)

I think this is presuming a heavily overengineered model that fixates on things other than “How high can I raise your rent right now?” So long as eviction laws are loose enough, there are plenty of landlords who will find ways to make money by simply withholding your deposits and evicting you on short notice. What’s more, there’s been a growing trend of predator application processes, wherein landlords charge a vig to even consider you for their residence and make money keeping spots open indefinitely as bait.

Oh yeah there is definitely that, too.

If we want to get really sci-fi horror, I more see a future in which landlords find a way of sticking tenants with fees and collections long after that person has left the unit. Also, the increased slum-ification of existing housing, as big corporate landlords cut further and further back on maintenance.

Not sure I see a path to fees and collections after a person has left their rental, but I 150% believe that they can and will do their best to find a way.

“Living in the pods” is the real sci-fi nightmare. Paying thousands a month to effectively lease a bunk in a contract that affords a landlord direct access to all your incomes and assets indefinitely. That’s the horror story I’m more worried about than anything.

I do absolutely agree with the right-now horror stories that you're bringing up. Those are already in our face. Particularly the 200 sq ft apartment. In Hong Kong they have workers living/renting in literal rabbit hutches.

Still, I believe the Dark Mirror-style social credit score will come into existence. They've already tried it in America, it was called "Peeple" and it failed. For now. Meanwhile, across the Pacific:

https://www.forbes.com/sites/bernardmarr/2019/01/21/chinese-social-credit-score-utopian-big-data-bliss-or-black-mirror-on-steroids/#:~:text=If%20an%20individual%20has%20a,tickets%20or%20renting%20an%20apartment.

If an individual has a lower social credit score, they might find their ability to purchase what they want such as high-quality goods or a new home to be restricted. They might also be prohibited from buying airline and train tickets or renting an apartment. Some people with low social credit scores can expect to be blocked from dating sites and not be able to enroll their children in a school of their choice.

A social credit score affecting your ability to rent an apartment. This is the nightmare I described. It's happening right now at this moment in China.

We can't ever say "that can't happen here" when it's already happening elsewhere. We have to be vigilant. What's going on in China is a Beta rollout. When it gets here it'll be smoothed out and optimized for maximum suffering.

[–] GhostFence@lemmy.world 0 points 9 months ago (5 children)

The dystopian horror I see coming is is if you have no social media, you have no online reputation to boost your standing / social credit score. The landlord sees you as anti-social and will dock your rental bid score bigly for that. After all you might be anti-social and that Karen/Daren landlord doesn't want that! (Yes, asshole dirtbag logic in general is endemic to Capitalism.)

The 2nd dial-to-11 factor of my prediction is not that you need a steady job - it's that if (for instance) you work as a screenwriter with 10 years of rock solid employment, you just took a huge hit to your "rental bid score" because in this dystopian scenario the landlord's arbitrary algorithm has decided that automation/AI is threatening to make your job redundant in the near future (whether or not this is true). Plus said algorithm is opaque and unknowable so you will have no idea why it rejected you.... kinda like job applicants of today.

Also today you need one or two referrals from your landlords and maybe also a family member. In the dystopian future I see coming, the more friends and bosses and such that you have to vouch for you, the higher your rental bid score will be. References from two landlords and a family member are trumped by refs from 3 landlords, your coworkers, your boss, and your family.

Overall? What I see coming is landlords will use unaccountable algorithms which want to know every tiny thing about you and they will tweak that algorithm in unknowable ways to judge your fitness as a renter using 29 (or more) additional dimensions than they do now. Most of the time they'll use it to sell your personal information and have no intent of renting the place out at all. We're sliding in that general direction now with rental scams driven by the actual landlords. Plus on top of that there absolutely will be a brutally insidious "set your own rental price" encouraging rental applicants to bid to the moon.

I expect most who read this to say this is out of this world sci-fi overexaggeration. Our grandkids will call it reality. Rental bidding is already here on a small scale. The thin end of the wedge is already in the door.

[–] GhostFence@lemmy.world 1 points 9 months ago

The major one I’ve noticed is putting down women for having a preference on height or even dick size, but men are allowed to only want big boobs or petite women because it’s “a natural expression of human sexuality.”

I see men being constantly shamed and catching blowback for those preferences. I mean we can't hope to succeed in shaming women into wanting short men or poor men, etc. but shouldn't the same rule apply to men? More insane is that wanting a tall man is more "legitimate" than wanting big boobs or athletic build in women. The rules are constantly altered to justify all women's preferences and demonize men's.

Also as a man you can be banned from Reddit not for saying "no trans woman" but just for saying "I want a cis woman". Feminist subreddits will go for your head, too. (Don't get me wrong if one of my kids is dating a trans person I will support them totally also.) I've gotten the vibe that you risk your account here over that, too.

[–] GhostFence@lemmy.world 0 points 9 months ago (7 children)

Greetings from the average American family 20 minutes in your future:

Rents have gotten so expensive now that national bidding companies have arisen to address the crisis. Now renters can decide their own prices by bid-scoring on property and rental housing. Average monetary bid on housing in Austin is $5000 for a bachelor's pad but the money is only part of the bid-score. It also includes the usual credit rating and income reporting, but also your social media connections, the stability of your job (calculated by opaque market analysis firms), letters of recommendation from your employer, friends and family, and your overall "social credit" score (how many people give you 5-stars on every day interactions?).

This actually turned out to be an incredible democratization of housing! Landlords no longer control rents! We now have 1.2 million homeless in America but hey that's their faults for being poor, working jobs vulnerable to automation and offshoring, and especially the shut-ins, glad to see we're flushing them out and forcing them to socialize and be popular, or get thrown into the streets!

I love this country!

Chapter 1 from "Not Your Parents' Dystopia", coming to your reality soon!

[–] GhostFence@lemmy.world 0 points 9 months ago (3 children)

"Housing addiction: the next drug war." - Republicans/Capitalists

 

There's this rising narrative going around that if you ask specifically for a CIS partner, you're a transphobe. That could be true for some people but it's not fundamentally related to bigotry. Moreover, this narrative, the "if you only want a CIS mate then that is prejudice" is trampling on one of the most important rights a person can have: the right to choose who they want to get intimate with.

First of all, transmen are in fact men and transwomen are in fact women. Let's get that out of the way. This isn't a foot in the door for "trans this really isn't that" narratives. What this is about it is the freedom to choose who you want to be intimate with. That right is sancrosanct, it is absolutely inviolable.

And yes, there's plenty of issues that make transgender dating a special issue. If someone reveals their TG status they can be open to hate crimes and even deadly violence. However all marginalized groups are special in their own way. As a black man I don't think it's racist if a woman says she doesn't want to date a black man. I face oppression, too. My class is special in its own way. One group isn't more special than the other. None of us have the right to force ourselves upon those who don't want to be intimate with us, even by omitting who we really are.

Really, if you have to deceive or hide who you are in order to date someone, do you really want to date them? I wouldn't. That's not fair to you and you're denying them their right to choose who they want. What do you think will happen when the person wants a CIS mate and they discover the truth? They're going to get pissed and dump you. Now you have to shame them into staying with you: "If you loved me for real this wouldn't bother you"... that's not going to convince anyone. They're either going to leave, or they'll resent you forever. That's just how it is. You can be mad at that but that's about as effective as protesting the rising of the sun. There's just no way to win once you've gone down that road.

"I want a CIS mate" is not the same as "trans women are not women" - one is a preference, the other is harmful prejudice. On the flip side CIS people who do date trans people shouldn't be shamed for their choices either. A man should be free to date a trans woman and not catch flak about it. Trans people should be able to be openly trans and not face hate speech or threats to their well-being. This, without any exception whatsoever.

The fundamental fact is when you shame or worse abrogate people's right to choose who they want to get intimate with, it's not going to end well for you. All you're going to get is people who resent being coerced or bullied to date people they don't want to. And that's not something the country, or the world, will ever put up with. Except that right now, most people don't imagine they can be labeled a transphobe just for wanting a CIS mate. And unpopular opinion: that should be nipped in the bud.

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