i don't think hexbear is a good sample group for the average lemmy user nor representative of lemmy users a whole. you might do better sampling lemmy.world, or assembling a meta poll from the top 5 or top 10 instances.
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I'm a Cis woman on Lemmy. I don't know what the fuck "hexbear" is. I didn't vote. Thank you.
Thereβs a reason that your instance (and others) has defederated from hexbear.
Ok, ladies: Would you rather out yourself as a woman online, or spend the night in the woods with a bear?
Anyone thinking that lemmy is a welcoming space to women should read through that thread first.
Edit: the current state of Lemmy and the fediverse reminds me heavily of early reddit, for better and for worse. You can curate some pretty supportive communities if you are careful picking them out, they remain well moderated, etc. But there are plenty of places where you'll get scummy content if you wander or if posts attract too much attention.