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Until yesterday I used to have long hair. Due to unusually high tempetures I started having problems with the skin on my head. So, to avoid problems. I shaved it clean and it will remain that way until the skin in treated.

Now that I'm bald, I now know what's it's like. It sucks. My old hair suited me perfectly. It was messy just the right amount, perfect length, made me look different than the rest and handsome as hell. Every girl would look at me where ever I went to. Compliments floating over the air, jealous looks from other men etc. etc. It made me feel powerful.

But most importantly, it suited my personality and clothing. It was perfect! But now it's gone. I hate bald me. I will never look back at this bald version of myself.

It feels weird. I don't feel that bad but still it's disheartening.

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[โ€“] Fuck_u_spez_@sh.itjust.works 2 points 3 months ago

All the men on my mom's side of the family have been bald for as long as I can remember so I knew I was doomed when my hair started thinning in my early twenties. Now that I've been shaving it for years, I don't miss it one bit. It's so much less of a hassle than keeping it clean and straight and cut neatly.

It's just hair. You can either own it or wear a hat while you wait a few months until it grows back -- and then be grateful that it still does.

If you were getting bald (which you might not) you'd have 2 options:

  • hair transplant (if needed) and medication for the rest of your life.
  • shave/trim and move on

I'm generally for team 2. I'd hate medicating (which from internet opinion has various long-lasting unwanted side effects) for the rest of my life for such stupid thing.

I must confess, I have the benefit that I don't look that bad. Also, being fit becomes much more required when bald, ๐Ÿ˜…, you have to compensate your older look; and side effects from exercise are virtually all positive. So I'll take it.

[โ€“] aedelred@lemmy.world 2 points 3 months ago (1 children)

Shave it. I did when mine started going and the maintenance is super easy. I'd never go back.

[โ€“] orbitz@lemmy.ca 1 points 3 months ago

I started that like 10 years ago, unfortunately I have a funky shaped head so it doesn't look as good as it may on others but I do enjoy the maintenance on it. I can definitely tell these days it won't grow back like it used to (much thinner on the top, edging back on the top sides). However being able to use a hair trimmer once a week myself is cheap, and less things to do while getting ready in the morning.

I can understand since society seems to put value on hair but not worrying about it (some confidence) goes a long way. I barely think about it nowadays.

[โ€“] clark@midwest.social 2 points 3 months ago

I think he ought to become your role model now. You know how many girls went crazy for that dude (and his shaved look)?

[โ€“] cheese_greater@lemmy.world 2 points 3 months ago
  • Try finasteride/dutasteride and rogaine
  • transplant
  • microneedling
  • vitamin d (low chance but cant hurt)
[โ€“] sharkfucker420@lemmy.ml 2 points 3 months ago

Ah damn, thats ass. I have long thick curly hair that goes down to my mid-back and this heat is also causing a scalp condition of mine to flair up. I just can't shave it though, don't have the willpower. I will stay itchy thanks

[โ€“] shinigamiookamiryuu@lemm.ee 2 points 3 months ago

Wear a Lex Luthor suit. Or a Charlie Brown suit.

[โ€“] fin@sh.itjust.works 1 points 3 months ago

Youโ€™ll get used to it soon, so distract yourself away from the hairstyle. I feel that way everytime I cut my hair

[โ€“] minibyte@sh.itjust.works 1 points 3 months ago* (last edited 3 months ago)

Youโ€™ll get used to it. Find a few nice hats you like. It has more to do with temperature control than vanity. I find I get cold easier.

[โ€“] Etterra@lemmy.world 1 points 3 months ago

The best thing you can do is accept the inevitable. If it's that important, get over it the same way you would an ex or the death of a loved one. In my case that means round up some friends and go get so drunk that you need to be carried home.

[โ€“] Rookwood@lemmy.world 1 points 3 months ago (1 children)

There is a Seinfeld episode about this.

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[โ€“] sapphiria@lemmy.blahaj.zone 1 points 3 months ago

You could always try having some fun with wigs. Lots of options there, from realistic to completely outlandish. You could even try cutting & styling one if you wanted it to look similar.

[โ€“] The_Che_Banana@beehaw.org 1 points 3 months ago

When I started shaving i went all the way smooth....didnt jive with me. Let it grow and used clippers the next week, set to the closest and that worked great...

You could not ask me to have hair again.

Give yourself a minute...it grows back.

[โ€“] McLoud@lemm.ee 1 points 3 months ago

I started to go bald at the age of 20, and it was a major kick in the nuts at first. After I finally accepted my fate, i now use a disposable razor in the shower almost every morning, and keep my remaining hair at almost zero length. Some girls dig a bald head, and some girls think its a turnoff. But i have come to enjoy it. It is very low maintenance and it feels great in the summer. More aerodynamic as well lol

[โ€“] BeatTakeshi@lemmy.world 0 points 3 months ago
[โ€“] HipsterTenZero@dormi.zone 0 points 3 months ago

it's time to get into wigs

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