Autism

I've been diagnosed with Asperger's.

I'm constantly astounded that people on the spectrum assume that they're absolutely, 100% right, and that the problem is always everyone else. If I'm saying something, and no one around me is understanding what I'm saying, then the problem is clearly not everyone else. The very clear, and obvious problem is that I'm not communicating clearly -or- effectively.

More often than not, I find that I've omitted something that seems blindingly, patently obvious to me, but no one else was aware of because I entirely failed to communicate it.

This is a hallmark of being on the spectrum; people think that because they see things one way, everyone else must be able to see the same thing.

Is this a thing? I feel like I often have to repeat my very clear and simple words and even then people remember them differently than I do? I thought I was just insane

Oh god I hate this, I'm afraid of people misunderstanding me especially when it comes to discussing sensitive or controversial topics

1. Say what you actually mean.
2. Mean what you actually say.

For some reason those 2 rules are the OPPOSITE of how normals' culture wires people to work.

Normals' rules are:

1. Don't say what you mean.
2. Say what you don't mean.

It's abuse, & needlessly exhausting.

Gaslighting is just an exponential-amplification of normal-dishonesty.

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Every time you're asked to repeat yourself, use different words which mean the same thing. Saying the same thing over and over and expecting to get a different response is useless and frustrating.

So autism and depression have a lot in common as I gather.

You say "relationship", I hear "birthday".

You say "practical", I hear "eager"

You say "plan", I'm not paying attention to what you said but will respond to you as if you asked a question about what I suddenly want to talk about and expect you to follow along rather than expecting an answer or steering us back on track