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[–] neatchee@lemmy.world 4 points 2 months ago (2 children)

No, it's not socially acceptable. Yes, I wish it were. I don't know if I'd go for full on snuggling but I come from a physically affectionate family and in general wish people were more comfortable with that kind of thing

[–] TranscendentalEmpire@lemm.ee 0 points 2 months ago (1 children)

No, it's not socially acceptable. Yes, I wish it were.

Like, does this mean you are afraid of other people you don't know judging you, or that you or your friends find it socially unacceptable?

Either way that seems to be more of an individual problem rather than a social one. I am physically affectionate with my friends and have never been confronted about it by a member of the public , not that I would really care if I were. People be dumb, I'm not going to let someone else's projected homophobia dictate my friendship.

[–] neatchee@lemmy.world -1 points 2 months ago

That it would be viewed as awkward and unwelcome by the other participants. Consent is key, yo

[–] lechatron@lemmy.today 0 points 2 months ago (1 children)

Interesting. I come from a family that wasn't very physically affectionate, and I hug most of my friends every time I see them.

[–] neatchee@lemmy.world -1 points 2 months ago

I go for the hug when I see friends I haven't seen in a long time, or when I'm parting ways with someone I know I won't see for a while. But it's definitely not a regular occurrence

[–] Chairsareoverrated@lemmy.world 1 points 2 months ago

Wait, so you all are telling me that you don't kiss the homies goodnight?

[–] Reygle@lemmy.world 1 points 2 months ago

I haven't had anything beyond a hug from my mother in 10 years.

A boss of mine some time ago would sneak up and pat me on the back, scaring me most of the time. Back then I hated it.

These days something like that would make my whole week.

[–] intensely_human@lemm.ee 1 points 2 months ago

A little bit more than I was before. These days I will put an arm around or touch a friend on the shoulder or back to show support. I do this with my father too.

My men’s group helped me learn to do this. It’s really nice.

There are men who haven’t touched another human being in years.

[–] match@pawb.social 1 points 2 months ago

buddy I'm a furry I'll hug strangers

[–] Bronzefish@lemmy.world 1 points 2 months ago

We very much are, hugs and kisses and all. But waaay more important (not everybody is into physical affection on a platonic level) we share our feelings and give each other compliments.

It is very sad to see how many men outside our bubble try to uphold this stupid idea of what it needs to be a man, while struggling with their mental health and the ability to have meaningful relationships.

[–] Fern@lemmy.world 0 points 2 months ago (2 children)

I'm a big hugger. I wish that there was more affection between men, I often worry I'm making other men uncomfortable and then in turn I get uncomfortable about it. The whole thing makes me far more stressed than I wish it did honestly.

[–] folkrav@lemmy.ca 1 points 2 months ago

My sister’s partner is like that. His whole family is the same, from what I could see. It’s not as natural for me, despite my family not being particularly cold either. It’s a me problem, though, so IMHO it shouldn’t deter you. Keep normalizing that shit.

[–] Nachorella@lemmy.sdf.org 1 points 2 months ago

There's one guy in my little group of friends who is an unapologetic hugger, even though the rest of us don't really hug he'll always hug everyone goodbye. I'd say it's possible some guys don't enjoy it, but I actually really appreciate it about him, it's nice getting a hug and sometimes I really need one.

For anyone who really doesn't like it they can always offer their hand first, but on behalf of all the guys who need a little affection from their buds sometimes I wanna say thanks for being there for the friends who need it. Even if they never say so I'm sure some of them appreciate it.