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I'm going to treat you with good faith and assume you were using "cool man" in the same way someone might say "that's just like your opinion man", as a saying, but I will remind you that this person has their pronouns in their display name and you need to respect them.
If I offended anyone, I apologize. But man... People like you make this shit look bad (I know this is old, I just saw it).
I respect people's choices with respect to gender expression. What I don't respect is people who use that shit as a cudgel to censor opinions they don't like that are entirely unrelated to that subject.
That person had NO pronouns listed next to their name. I frankly don't clock people's usernames before commenting so had no idea what their username even was. That said, one could argue that the name Emily implies nothing about a person's preferred pronouns. Unless you know them personally, or they complained personally about this, then YOU are the one assuming gender and pronouns. Fuck dude, why am I even assuming that the person's username is their real name? Oh no, I just said "dude" are you going to ban me?
Two people who have never seen/heard/spoken to one another discussing something on the internet, and one is supposed to, what, intuit the other's preferred pronouns? What if Emily did not identify as a woman, and you just corrected me? It's almost as if "cool man" isn't gender specific anymore, and you know that.
The pronouns are right there, in the display name
. I'm confused, do they not show up for you? You're on our instance so I'm guessing it's not a front-end difference, but maybe you're browsing on an app that doesn't show it appropriately? Although I would mention their username itself includes the words "IsTrans" and is sourced from lemmy.blahaj.zone so those should be other key indicators.
I was hardly about to ban you over a small mistake. The only reason I even replied to this, is that multiple people reported it and Emily herself came in and corrected you. The action was more about signaling to others that this is a safe space.