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What everyone gets wrong about the 2015 Ashley Madison scandal (www.newscientist.com)

submitted 6 months ago by Bishma@discuss.tchncs.de to c/technology@lemmy.world

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Generally, the media has focused on the (mainly) men whose names and desires were taken from the company’s subscriber database and shared with the world. [...] Ashley Madison was never really about that. Avid Life Media, its parent company, wasn’t in the business of sex, it was in the business of bots. Its site became a prototype for what social media platforms such as Facebook are becoming: places so packed with AI-generated nonsense that they feel like spam cages, or information prisons where the only messages that get through are auto-generated ads.

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[–] limelight79@lemm.ee 19 points 6 months ago (3 children)

Back when I was in online dating (I got married in 2010, so it has been a very long time), this is how it seemed to work in the hetero arena:

Women (by which I mean, legitimate accounts from women who were actually looking for dates): Get 1,000,000 messages, approximately 999,900 of which are dick pics.
Men: See 1,000,000 ads, of which about 3 are legitimate people looking for dates.

So, both could be true in relation to the image.

I remember a guy once telling me that basically you have to respond to EVERY AD and hope something sticks. I never did that, and I felt bad for what the women must have had to deal with when I heard that. I had very limited success - dates with, at most, two or three women, and none of those really went anywhere. I ended up marrying someone from work instead.

[–] radicalautonomy@lemmy.world 7 points 5 months ago

Straight dating online is like trying to find drinkable water in a crisis situation; women are stranded in the ocean, and men are stranded in the desert.

[–] stoicmaverick@lemmy.world 6 points 5 months ago (1 children)

Dude. You got 3 whole messages?

[–] limelight79@lemm.ee 4 points 5 months ago

Some kind of miracle, I know. Actually I got more messages, but many of them were either spam or never even made it to a date.

[–] wagesj45@kbin.run 4 points 5 months ago

Both definitely are true. I don't mean to indicate that one view is right. One feeds into the other. This is just he natural outcome when one sex is a sexual selector and one is not. I don't envy either group online dating, but for different reasons.