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There's a saying that stuck with me: "feelings are never wrong".
Your feelings are a fact of your continued human existence. Unless you're a psychopath or sociopath (or whatever) and you literally don't feel, your feelings simply are.
From there I determined that feelings can be inspired incorrectly from a given happenstance. While you may initially feel offended by something that is said, it's neither necessary to continue being offended, nor is it necessary to always have that reaction to that given happenstance. Accepting yourself as you are is vitally important in restructuring who you want to be.
This is all borderline cognitive behavioural therapy. Training yourself to be the best version of you that you can be. I've been dabbling in CBT techniques for most of my life. I wasn't aware that it was CBT when I started working on myself in this capacity, but I've recently learned that a lot of the techniques I've been using to better myself, and increase my agency and control over my own mind and emotions, is used in CBT.
I would agree that some thoughts are not controllable. We all get intrusive thoughts and impulses that we choose whether we want to act on them. Whether that action is to open your mouth and speak those thoughts aloud, or type them out, or to take action based on those thoughts.
The thoughts and actions you describe I understand to be system 1 thinking. Aka, thinking fast. There's a great book on this called "thinking: fast and slow" which covers the ideas. Basically system 1 is your "fast" thinking, heuristic/instinctual/"muscle memory" systems. It's your "knee jerk" reactions and your first thought on something. System 2 is your contemplative and analytical systems, aka, "thinking slow". System 2 can educate system 1, which is how we form habits and "muscle memory"
System 1, we have little immediate control over since the majority of our sapience is fully embedded in system 2.
I would agree that there's a nontrivial number of people going around under only the learned behaviors from system 1, and doing very little analysis of what's happening by utilizing system 2.