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I understand your point here.
People we care about should be people we care to make happy, and who we want to make us happy.
I'm speaking more about agency. I use my own agency to limit whose opinion can even move the needle to my emotions. I decide whether their comments are something I should "take to heart" or disregard as an outburst.
Personally I separate myself from most situations and emotional involvement and look at things from a neutral, logical standpoint before I allow myself and my own feelings to be affected by what may, or may not be said in the moment.
I don't need anyone to do anything to make me feel happy, or like a man. I control that. I'm not going to blame anyone for how I feel.
If you don't feel happy, or you don't "feel like a man" (whatever that means to you), the answers to why you feel that way, or how you inspire those feelings in yourself are entirely within your power to control. You have agency over your feelings.
My SO, when she compliments me, makes me feel good, but I don't need her to constantly placate me with compliments in order to feel valuable, appreciated, happy, or "like a man".
It is emotionally healthy to look inward for happiness and satisfaction. Relying on the acceptance and platitudes from others to feel okay is codependent. I don't understand why anyone would want to give their agency over their feelings and emotions, wholly and completely over to others.