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[–] zout@fedia.io 3 points 1 day ago (1 children)

6 could fuck off too. I loathe these one-uppers.

[–] FireRetardant@lemmy.world 22 points 1 day ago (2 children)

Sometimes they are just trying to relate by going "yeah I've had a similar experience" but it can come off as selfish if they focus on it too much or cut off your story to tell theirs.

[–] zout@fedia.io 3 points 11 hours ago

I know. Specifically, I mean the kind of people where you can tell from the moment you start talking, they're listening not to your story, but for a hook to turn the story about them. I have a coworker like that, if I tell a story about something that happened to me this week, he'll tell a story about what happened to him or his family 20 years ago, which by the way is way worse/better. He is also always the hero in these stories. I find most of these people are deeply insecure and try to cover this with a big mouth. So, bully behaviour basically.

[–] NegativeInf@lemmy.world 9 points 23 hours ago* (last edited 4 hours ago) (1 children)

My ADHD tells me to try and empathize by sharing a similar experience. It took me so long to realize people were taking it as "one upping" now I just don't share anything.

[–] FireRetardant@lemmy.world 4 points 22 hours ago

Yea same here. I've learned to let to them get their full story out, then I ask if I may share a similar experience,