Well the hyperfocus does as it wills... but sometimes you can get a hyperfocus in something you can improve on! Most of us do that, actually. In all my life, and I'm almost 40, I've only had one hyperfocus that I absolutely can't do. I still try every so often.

And having a lot of projects going at once is about the only way we can focus. I only ever did well in school in classes where my teachers let me either read a book or play with aying cards while they taught. Many of us can only multitask.

[–] Valmond@lemmy.world 1 points 3 days ago (1 children)

Wow thank you. I always thought ADHD was about people having problems focusing by not being able to do so, and other problems like sitting still, that I don't really feel I have.

Now, I can focus, incredibly well, I guess it's called hyperfocus :-) Now it has a name, thanks!

Also being called out because I doodle during meetings (among other things) and the idea that some people just can't not do several things at the same time, well that hit home 100%.

I think I need to think about this a bit, it feels like I finally found out what's up with me, any advice greatly appreciated.

[–] flicker@lemmy.world 2 points 3 days ago (1 children)

If it helps, when I was a kid, the conventional wisdom was "girls don't get ADHD." Which is why I didn't get diagnosed until I was about 36.

Nowadays, we know better. And we can use that knowledge to do better! Which is why I'm finally in college.

[–] Valmond@lemmy.world 2 points 2 days ago

That's so shitty, I hope the world can one day be a better place. It feels like the bar is really low.

In my family nothing was tolerated if it didn't make mom feel better like right now. So I didn't have any time to even think about things before I was 18. It's been a while but people like you have done a huge difference in my life, I'm trying to be helpful person too when I can, one thing here one thing there and together we move forward.

Good going for taking up college! It should be a breeze, but good luck and I hope it all goes well!