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Do lesbians have a concept of Top and Bottom? (lemmy.world)

submitted 1 month ago by stoicmaverick@lemmy.world to c/asklemmy@lemmy.ml

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It's been a long ol time since I've known any lesbians well enough to ask such things, but I followed my brain down a weird line of inquiry, and got to wondering about the current state of the art for the gay gals. I guess I had always assumed it was similar to the dynamics of a gay guy relationship, but then I realized that since men have both an input and an output, they can choose, but it's mechanically a bit different for cis women. Is there any relationship between that, and the slightly more masculine versus feminine flavors? Asking for a friend, who is me. I want to know. Thanks.

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[–] macgyver@federation.red 10 points 1 month ago (2 children)

Straight Pillow Princesses exist lol

[–] stoicmaverick@lemmy.world 9 points 1 month ago (1 children)

[–] janus2@lemmy.zip 5 points 1 month ago

first time seing a Galaxy Quest gif. 10/10

[–] Xyre@lemmus.org 8 points 1 month ago (2 children)

I've always heard them referred to as starfish

[–] ChexMax@lemmy.world 8 points 1 month ago (1 children)

I think the difference is that starfish just lie there, spread out, not really participating, and a pillow princess participates with words and moans, and their hands are roaming, and they're I think usually good receivers they just don't get on top and take a turn at the work part. They do motivate their partner to continue pleasing them though.

[–] stoicmaverick@lemmy.world 5 points 1 month ago

Sounds like everyone I know at work.

[–] macgyver@federation.red 5 points 1 month ago

That’s fair, but I learned the term from a bi girl so makes sense