Getting told off even gently felt like an unbearable punishment for some reason. I read something recently about adhd folks being more sensitive to negative interactions?

Check out Rejection Sensitive Dysphoria. It's a common side effect of ADHD.

[–] PotatoesFall@discuss.tchncs.de 26 points 1 month ago (1 children)

that's the one. As a kid I never understood why punishments even exist. People being mad at me was already unbearable torture

[–] IsThisAnAI@lemmy.world 13 points 1 month ago* (last edited 1 month ago)

Because most people do not react the way you do. You do your best to teach kids why it's wrong and have them correct behavior but letting them do whatever they want and not escalating when needed is a bad strategy as well. This works well in most children. To expect most parents today, much less 30 years ago to be able to closely identify what might be going on under the surface as well as a professional is unrealistic.

[–] Sabata11792@ani.social 6 points 1 month ago

Rejection Sensitive Dysphoria

Aw crap, it reads like a character sheet... Guess I'm binging this now.