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What was the conversation surrounding drugs and sex like in your home growing up? (lemmy.ml)

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[–] ininewcrow@lemmy.ca 31 points 2 months ago

Don't do drugs

Don't do sex

I'm indigenous Canadian and both my parents survived residential school in the 50s. Residential school for indigenous people back then was forced on us, especially for children where they were systematically abused by Christian missionaries. Mom was not so abused but dad was terribly traumatized to the point where sex and anything sexual or remotely sexual was forbidden. Just about everything in life to him meant burning in everlasting hell. Drugs were no different but less so.

So our indigenous Christian home just dealt with it all by forbidding everything.

How did it turn out?

I have seven siblings and we all ended up with alcohol and drug addiction by the time we were teenagers. I cleaned up early and I've been sober for 29 years, all my other siblings never fell off the deep end (thank God) but I'm the only one who got officially 'sober'.

I didn't have kids but everyone else in my family did before anyone was married. One of my younger brothers picked up the slack for me by having children with four women. I have over 40 nieces and nephews, some by the family, some brought in, some married in and others illegitimate.

We're all one big happy family .... but we're all gonna burn in hell. Lol