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Appealing to "Well, it impacts you too" is great for what it's worth, but it misses the point that we should be focused on inequality above and beyond the stuff that impacts you specifically.
It doesn't miss the point, allowing and encouraging men to engage in traditionally feminine activities like childrearing, domestic work, expressing empathy etc enables the women around them to engage in non traditional behavior.
Inequality is a systems problem, personal behavior and expectations is a personal problem, and both need to be addressed.
I'm well aware. But the reality is, a reply in a feminist community, that focused on mens needs is what got the attention and the up votes. And that prioritisation of men's interests over women's is part of the problem.
Feminism includes men, but focusing on men to highlight its importance, sustains the problem feminism exists to address in the first place.
I'm trying to convey that regardless of other people's expectations, he's responsible for learning and being critical of his own behavior.
You are absolutely right that male voices and opinions are over represented here.
Looking at the community's main page, it doesn't seem like the community is overly focused on men's interests in the pursuit of gender equality, or that they're prioritary over women's. Do you think it is the case?
Interestingly, 90% of the content is posted by a man. Just sayin.
(yes, that would be me)
But I think @ada@ada@lemmy.blahaj.zone makes a great point. I post articles that largely pertain to men in !mensliberation@lemmy.ca, since that's a feminist space dedicated to men's voices and highlights how inequity impacts men. To piggyback off their point, and I do realize the irony in me saying this, I think there's a downside to men driving the conversation in feminist spaces (e.g.: the most upvoted comment ends up being about men). Men already dictate hegemonic beliefs in most spaces in society.
I think this answers the question OP asked, and I don't think anybody disagreed so far: the answer is yes, but not to detriment of the expression of the voice of women, who are the main victims of gender inequality. And like, even if men agree, we shouldn't make it all about us, and learn to shut up sometimes.
Is that what you guys meant?