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Anything that makes you apply your hand to your face.
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My daughter is almost 5 and I’ve made a conscious effort to stop doing whatever I’m doing if she says stop or no.
For example, tickling. If I’m tickling and she says stop, I stop immediately with no back talk.
Or if I’m copying her in a joking way (we both do it to each other from time to time) and she says stop, that’s it. We’re done.
When I’m snuggling with her after reading books before bed, she feels comfortable enough to say, “you can go now” and I that’s it. I leave with no complaints.
In non-safety situations I ask if I can hold her hand. If she says no, that’s it, I’m not holding her hand. Parking lots are a different matter.
I will continue this throughout her entire upbringing so that if (ok, when) someone continues to do something she has said stop or no to, it will be unambiguously wrong to her.
Later when I explain that “no” is a complete sentence, it should feel intuitive.
Boy is she in for a ride awakening when she goes out into the world. Kids like yours don't fare well when their world view gets shattered the first time.
You must have missed this part:
It should feel wrong to her. That's the point. And there will be explanations later that not everyone respects the first "stop" or "no" and that she should do something about those people.
She will learn about guns and I will offer to help her get a license to carry. I'm afraid those that would not respect her "stop" or "no" will be the ones getting their world view shattered.
It's kind of strange that you seem to believe I won't be able to explain this...
I've already had to explain that she can completely ignore people, including adults, who say things like, "god will punish you" and she's not even 5 yet.