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Showerthoughts

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A "Showerthought" is a simple term used to describe the thoughts that pop into your head while you're doing everyday things like taking a shower, driving, or just daydreaming. The best ones are thoughts that many people can relate to and they find something funny or interesting in regular stuff.

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It sounds way less offensive to those who decry the original terminology's problematic roots but still keeps its meaning intact.

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[–] zero_spelled_with_an_ecks@programming.dev 12 points 3 weeks ago (1 children)

Anyway, the Sub is supposed to be the one that's actually in control for this kind of thing

I think there's a better way to put that. It's often called a power exchange. Both people involved can rescind consent at any time, and there's also negotiation that happens before scenes to set up expectations and limits, but I don't know too many subs that want to be in control of a scene. My experience is they want to give up control in a way that is safe.

[–] andrew_s@piefed.social 4 points 3 weeks ago (1 children)

Yeah, you're right, that was a clumsy word choice. My experience is mostly from watching The Duke of Burgundy tbh

Hadn't come across that one, might have to check it out.