heraplem
I am a vegan. Is this conversation unreasonable?
Are you talking to the same person, or the same few people, repeatedly? There certainly are people out there who just are unreasonable. You can't expect individuals to change.
Otherwise, I guess (and I admit that this is biased in my favor) that you simply disagree with each other at a foundational level, and that's causing you to talk past each other.
I think that most people don't really know how to discourse with people who have differing ethical foundations, because it can lead to situations where a person who meets all the societal criteria of a "good person" is nonetheless committing (according to whatever ethical precepts) a horrible crime. But, in this context, accusing someone of committing a horrible crime is not unreasonable; in fact, it's too reasonable; it involves prioritizing reason over tact and politeness.
I'd be interested in seeing a trace of one of those conversations.
For the most part, the "unreasonable vegan" stereotype comes from two places.
- Confirmation bias. Veganism makes people uncomfortable with their own decisions, so people spread around the most outrageous stories about vegans as a defense mechanism. This is the same thing that happens in various circles with anyone whose mere existence makes other people insecure; e.g., teetotalers, or polyamorous people.
- Just plain disagreeing with them. There are lots of vegan arguments that are logically valid, but they sound outrageous if you don't already agree with them. People have trouble looking past their initial emotional reactions, so they respond to logically valid arguments with mere incredulity.