Beats the alternative.
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43 Male. I want kids but I am currently financially unsuitable. At some point though, I plan on it. I can appreciate being single and childless. I have done quite a bit of stuff, but, I have the urge to raise kids and have a family. It feels like there is a part of me not quite there.
Been trying for 6 years. Not desperately, but it would be nice. Thinking about getting chickens.
If youβre doing it for companionship, get male chicks so they donβt put them in the macerator.
Unfortunately, our local council doesn't allow having roosters because of the crowing. Hens only.
You're correct. I didn't mean that 40 was itself too old, only that there is a certain point at which they'll be too old for biological kids. No one is ever too old to find a new relationship though.
I'm in my 40s and I feel great being able to spend my time the way I want, and not have to worry about providing for kids. I've had time to develop new hobbies, read books, play games, and have a generally carefree lifestyle. I have friends who had kids, and kids have basically become their whole life. It's just not for me.
47W. Never wanted kids. I don't miss it. I'm happy when I see my friends' kids but I really don't want one.
I have time for me and I couldn't afford raising one but again, I've never ever felt the need to be a parent.
No one has ever pressured me into having children. People knew I wasn't the the type even when I was a kid. They never questioned my choice not to get married either. So no peer pressure.
Ask again in a decade and some. Me and my gf really do not want kids
Hopefully no different from life now.
You could really ask this question of anyone about anything. There will always be substantial differences between one person's life and another. Having had children doesn't necessarily denote that difference, even less so for men as some fathers don't stick around and instead go live their own lives seemingly uninterrupted.
But think of how many things people sink great amounts of time and effort into; gambling, becoming a practicing doctor, hedge fund trading, starting a charity, programming... Those people will probably all have large amounts of time devoted to those things.
Of course there'll be many things that don't compare, and some that do... Then you must also factor in that it's a trauma for some people. Some people end up not liking their children, kicking them out, disconnecting.
Human nature is hugely variable. What's it like being a good person? What's it like being rich? What's it like being homeless and a drug addict? What's ut like being happy? What's it like in prison? What's it like as mayor? Or psychiatrist? Or teacher?
What's it like not like doing any of the things mentioned here? Well, that question, your post, is really about you, isn't it? It's about you asking others "what would my life be if I didn't, or don't have kids?"
So, why are you asking?
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