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[–] Boomkop3@reddthat.com 13 points 3 weeks ago

Take it sleazy. Not for everyone, but for some people the most productive way of getting stuff done is doing it with less effort. Don't go too fast and burn out

[–] mindaika@lemmy.dbzer0.com 13 points 3 weeks ago

Dynamic programming. I should have just chased a check rather than trying to save the world

[–] captainlezbian@lemmy.world 13 points 3 weeks ago* (last edited 3 weeks ago)

Probably would’ve been nice to know I was trans a few years younger but I started hormones at 20 as did a friend my age who came out at 16, so like it probably would’ve been less consequential than much.

The importance of studying. And related, calculus and how electricity works. Both would’ve saved me a lot of money to have learned 6 months earlier.

Also how to say no to someone trying to negotiate your boundaries and use your kindness to push you into a relationship. I should’ve walked away the second she said she wanted to negotiate my no and that she wasn’t going to give up on pursuing me. That situation fucked me up and wasn’t even the first time someone with insufficiently controlled bpd wound up pressuring me into romantic/sexual situations I wasn’t comfortable with by making it harder to say no than to give what they wanted.

[–] BenVimes@lemmy.ca 13 points 3 weeks ago (1 children)

That I will never enjoy the taste of wine.

I figured out I would never like coffee in my teens, and had the same realization about beer in my 20s.

But it wasn't until this year, in my mid-thirties, that I finally accepted that I don't like the taste of wine and probably never will. After years of trying the full spectrum of wines, I had to admit that it wasn't the "notes" that were turning me off, nor was it a problem with the quality of the wine. It was the fundamental "wine-ness" that I disliked, the same as I don't like the "beer-ness" of beer or the "coffee-ness" of coffee.

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[–] accarezzu@lemmy.ml 12 points 3 weeks ago* (last edited 3 weeks ago) (3 children)

That you don't put soap in the bootyhole

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[–] kang@lemmy.ml 11 points 3 weeks ago

No matter how hard you try, how loud you cry, some people will never change.

[–] HurlingDurling@lemmy.world 11 points 3 weeks ago

How to properly manage a budget and how do credit cards work

[–] Fuad@lemmy.ml 11 points 3 weeks ago

I don’t feel too late to learn anything so far.

[–] UltraGiGaGigantic@lemmy.ml 11 points 3 weeks ago (7 children)

Being a good person is a weakness in capitalist civilizations.

[–] WhyFlip@lemmy.world 7 points 3 weeks ago (1 children)

Oh, please. It's most definitely not.

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[–] evlogii@lemm.ee 10 points 3 weeks ago

Not all rich people are smart, and not all smart people are rich. Seems kind of obvious to me now, but it took me a long time to comprehend this.

[–] CrimeDad@lemmy.crimedad.work 10 points 3 weeks ago (1 children)
[–] slazer2au@lemmy.world 6 points 3 weeks ago

Who was committing fraud?

[–] That_Devil_Girl@lemmy.ml 8 points 3 weeks ago

That property has more rights and protections than people do.

The value of human life, in reality, is much lower than I thought it would be.

Laws and rights are only as good as the people & mechanisms that enforce them. A piece of paper doesn't protect you, people do.

That people often prefer a comforting delusion over the truth, even if it hurts them in the long run.

[–] TotalFat@lemmy.world 8 points 3 weeks ago (1 children)

Don't buy the cow if you're lactose intolerant.

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[–] Jarix@lemmy.world 8 points 3 weeks ago

That in spite of doing my best to care for their mother as she slipped into the madness of depression and alzheimers before dieing last year, that they care about my sacrifice because no one other than me or my brother cared enough about her to help with her care(we did the best we could I know it wasnt enough but at least we were there for her)

But they get to keep her money after kicking us out of the house and selling everything she had so thats cool right?

[–] Nemo@slrpnk.net 7 points 3 weeks ago (2 children)

How to make latte art. First success today at the age of forty!

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[–] apotheotic@beehaw.org 7 points 3 weeks ago* (last edited 3 weeks ago)

That I am a girl

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