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One that comes to mind for me: "Whatever doesn't kill you makes you stronger" is not always true. Maybe even only half the time! Are there any phrases you tend to hear and shake your head at?
“Cheer up, it may never happen”
I’m sorry but if I’m not in a good mood or I’m sad it’s because something has happened to make me feel like it.
"Boys will be boys" Oh yes, what deep insight, nicely expresses the lack of parenting that let little Billy here become a FUCKING BULLY that regularly kicks, punches and intimidates other children. Even worse when adults agree that "shitty and violent" is just how boys are, you know boys will be boys.
Well done being a role model guys, not only does that excuse the bully, it openly communicates to the victim that 1) he's allowed to be like that, 2) they should be bullies too and 3) nobody has any intention of actually helping them and changing the situation.
And then you make them shake hands afterwards and both have to apologize, the bully and his victim.
GRRRRRRRRR makes me so angry! Complete abdication of your responsibility to actually parent your little monster.
"Well it can't get any worse" And "Well, you gotta do something"
The first is almost always dead wrong. Trust me, you can make anything worse.
As for the second, it's shockingly coming that in a given scenario, the best action is to not do anything different at all. It may seem like things are bad and something has to change, but changing your strategy at this point can still definitely make things worse. Sometimes inaction is the correct action.
"I'm really great at reading people/spotting BS/etc." It seems like almost invariably this is said by people who are quick to make assumptions about people and as a result, are terrible at figuring out what someone is actually thinking.
The people who loudly proclaim that they "don't care what anybody else thinks!" almost always care a great deal what other people think. The ones who truly don't seldom announce it.
The reality is usually that whatever doesn't kill you, maims you for life.
"Let's agree to disagree".
No, you asshole, we are getting to the bottom of this: you expose your reasoning for your position and I will do the same and this ends when reason doesn't support anymore one of the 2 sides.
"... tells you everything you need to know" if you have all of my same prejudices.
"Trust me."
Most of the time those two words can be correctly replaced with "I believe you to be an irrational eager to swallow any crap smeared on its filthy snout."
(People who deserve your trust typically don't evoke it.)
"just sayin' "
Yes. Yes you did. You just said.
"honestly.."
Wait, you weren't being honest before now? I catch myself saying this and it ignites that inner cringe.
The "Yeah, no."
Woah there, somebody want's to piss off the entire australian continent.
