cross-posted from: https://lemmy.world/post/18793945
i don't know who needs to hear this, but if someone you like tells you that they like people who possess traits that you don't appear to possess, it is NOT in fact an invitation for you to demonstrate that you might really have those traits, ACTUALLY.
It wasn't ever REALLY about that one thing; it was about dissuading you. Because they didn't like YOU. If you ever did manage to score that goal, you'll immediately discover that the goalposts have moved, because they'd immediately target something else to disqualify you.
Look, what it IS an opportunity for is to save some time: Move on.