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Men in their 40s, what’s one piece of advice for men in their 20s? (lemmy.world)

submitted 4 months ago by TheArstaInventor@lemmy.world to c/asklemmy@lemmy.ml

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[–] Wes4Humanity@lemm.ee 1 points 3 months ago

Don't get married before you're 25

Around 30 years old your body stops healing, injuries are just things you live with forever now, and old injuries you thought had healed come back as forever pain.. just keep that in mind when doing stupid shit... This includes injuries to your lungs and mind from things like smoking and drugs.

If you want to help people in any way, get rich first. No one will pay you enough to live off of for helping people... Better to bring your own wealth to the table and hopefully be able to help people for real with it.

If you don't already know how, learn to code asap... In 20 years, programming will be one of the few jobs left... Maybe

[–] rekabis@lemmy.ca 1 points 3 months ago* (last edited 3 months ago) (6 children)

Control your sex drive or it will be used to control you, and invariably very much against your own best interests.

I got lucky, and found my own partner quite early on (28 years together, now). But I did not stop observing other couples around me, and those men who failed to adequately control their own sex drive were the ones who almost always were taken advantage of and manipulated against their own best interests.

Ironically, RP (and to an extent, BP) information is a great base to understand how you can and will be manipulated, with MGTOW a good framework to insulate yourself against manipulation. Just understand that blaming others is a toxic and counterproductive path, seek to improve yourself to make RP/BP truths work with you and your best interests, and not against you.

[–] richieadler@lemmy.world 0 points 3 months ago (1 children)

Recommending Men Going Their Own Way doesn't bode well in regards to your opinion, so... OP, please disregard.

[–] rekabis@lemmy.ca -1 points 3 months ago* (last edited 3 months ago) (1 children)

Recommending Men Going Their Own Way doesn't bode well in regards to your opinion

So working on yourself and improving yourself, building self-respect, setting personal standards that you refuse to compromise on, and focusing on intrinsic motivation is somehow “not boding well”?

What a weird way of punching down.

And for decades now, women have been screaming at men to “leave me alone”, for men to not bother them or approach them or hit on them or engage with them in any way unless engaged with first… yet you have issues with men who do exactly that? You have problems with men whose entire philosophy is to ignore women in exactly the ways that women have been demanding?

Again, what a strangely hypocritical criticism.

The entire point of MGTOW is to give men a path out of “incel-dom”, to show them that there is an alternative path to fulfilment and peace and effective happiness that is entirely self-achievable because it does not hang on the sharp hooks of female approval. That any man can fully divest themselves of this cycle of bigotry and external blame and the bigoted societal expectations of men to focus on what truly matters - themselves.

And in our society where ¾ of all suicide victims are men, we desperately need more men to focus on themselves, first.

[–] richieadler@lemmy.world 0 points 3 months ago (1 children)

So working on yourself and improving yourself, building self-respect, setting personal standards that you refuse to compromise on, and focusing on intrinsic motivation is somehow “not boding well”?

That is not what MGTOW means in reality, and you know it. Stop playing coy.

[–] rekabis@lemmy.ca 1 points 3 months ago (1 children)

That is not what MGTOW means in reality, and you know it. Stop playing coy.

Ah, ignorance. It exists both as an innocent lack of information as well as an intentional rejection of facts. Yes, your cultivated ignorance is on full display.

[–] richieadler@lemmy.world 0 points 2 months ago

Bye, Felicia.

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[–] CableMonster@lemmy.ml -1 points 3 months ago

This is shallow, but here it is... When you are dating to marry look at the womans mother to see what her weight will probably be like after having kids. If her parents are big, she will probably be big.

[–] vipaal@aussie.zone -5 points 3 months ago

Start listening to Dr Michael Greger. You'll thank yourself at 40.

When making your worldviews, difficult as it might be, consider listening to the news from original source. Say, for China related stories, look up Chinese publications, translate them to a couple of other languages you know. Ask yourself what each narrator or writer wants you to think and do after listening to their side of the story. This habit will make traveling a better experience in many ways.

Write a journal everyday. Write a meal and snack journal everyday and include any alcohol, drug as well in it. Review them every now and then. Never miss any vaccine. The journals will come in handy for everything from planning weight loss, effectiveness of any diet or exercise, sicknesses, mental health issues, to helping your doctors help you better. Course correction will get simpler and ever easier.

If you ever think of kids, do consider stopping with one. This boiling, frying planet we have made ourselves need not be inflicted on any more than one little one of yours.

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