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How do you accept the things you cannot change? (feddit.de)

submitted 9 months ago by lompedtfre@feddit.de to c/asklemmy@lemmy.ml

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trying to stop being so thin skinned:

I had an online discussion with a random, we had a short but intense exchange until he replied and then blocked me, robbing me of a chance to reply.

I feel hurt because I couldn't reply. To me that means he won. I feel insulted and angry.

Yes, this is something I should talk to about with a shrink, but the therapist I contacted hasn't replied yet, so I might have to start looking for a new one if this one ain't reliable.

In the meantime I turn to the second best thing I can think of: this channel.

I can try to rationalize it: I cannot change it, I'm letting that guy live free in my mind, letting it go is the rational thing to do.

Except that here I'm not being rational, but emotional and I don't know why this triggers me so much.

Not having the last word triggers me. How would you solve this?

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[–] viking@infosec.pub 0 points 9 months ago (1 children)

Someone who withdraws from a discussion and blocks a person didn't "win", they ran, and deserve to be ignored.

[–] lompedtfre@feddit.de 0 points 9 months ago

never thought of it like this

[–] rufus@discuss.tchncs.de 0 points 9 months ago (2 children)

Just out of curiosity: Why do you ask that quesion every few days?

[–] damnthefilibuster@lemmy.world 0 points 9 months ago (1 children)

Keeps getting blocked of course. Gets into arguments frequently online.

[–] lompedtfre@feddit.de 0 points 9 months ago

... do I know you?

[–] lompedtfre@feddit.de 0 points 9 months ago

what question did I ask twice every few days?

[–] otp@sh.itjust.works 0 points 9 months ago (1 children)

If they block you, you never have to hear them again. That sounds like a win for you in my book!

Getting the last word in an argument isn't a victory.

[–] lompedtfre@feddit.de 0 points 9 months ago

good advice