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What's an immediate turn off in a person? (lemmy.world)

submitted 1 month ago by TheArstaInventor@lemmy.world to c/asklemmy@lemmy.ml

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[–] jjjalljs@ttrpg.network 59 points 1 month ago (18 children)

So many things.

queer phobic. I'm not queer but many of my friends are. I don't need that negativity in my life.
smoker. Maybe a pass if they are actively trying to quit. Maybe. Most active smokers I've known have kind of been assholes about it, though.
littering. Sometimes combined with the above when smokers throw their butts on the ground
being a jerk about people having healthy hobbies. Like, just let someone enjoy some video games or bird watching or whatever. I can't with people who are like "omg that's so childish you still [play games/read fiction/go to the zoo/whatever]?".
being anti-consent. I've met a few women who are like "just do stuff and I'll tell you if I don't like it" and I'm like lady there's some "stuff" that can be done that by the time it's happening , the damage is done. Let's just have a conversation about what we like and what our boundaries are.

[–] Jax@sh.itjust.works -5 points 1 month ago (10 children)

smoking

anti-consent

Can't help but feel a "my body my choice, your body my choice" vibe from this

[–] richieadler@lemmy.myserv.one 2 points 1 month ago (1 children)

Nope. You literally cannot smoke without polluting others.

[–] Azzu@lemm.ee -3 points 1 month ago* (last edited 1 month ago) (1 children)

You also literally can't play videogames without polluting others, since some of the electricity is still generated by burning coal. You also literally can't do any other thing either probably, since electricity is used in creating almost everything, or at least some other pollution.

I think if someone tries to make sure not to smoke near unknown people or people that don't want it, they're acceptable in my book.

[–] Jax@sh.itjust.works -2 points 1 month ago

These people are under the impression that secondhand smoke is sentient and immediately finds the nearest non-smokers lungs to pollute. I wouldn't expect logic to get through to them.

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