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For me it's not so much that I want alcohol as it is I want to not be stressed out. Alcohol facilitates that. I can de-stress without it but I rarely have the time I would need to do after a workday. Having a beer/drink when I get home gets the ball rolling so I can enjoy things again rather than just sit around with fried nerves.
I'm an alcoholic and reading your replies you are definitely one too. "I can take it or leave it" is such an addict thing to say. Also drinking doesn't help with stress, it just kicks the can down the road making it harder to deal with in the future
Don't project your problems onto me. Its one drink when I'm on edge after work and it does help with stress, it takes the edge off enough that I can do things that I enjoy which reduces my stress.
If my reddit account still existed I could point you to posts written by me 10 years ago identical to the things you are saying
I've been doing this longer than 10 years and it hasn't escalated. I actually drink much less now than I used to because I'm not going out partying all the time anymore.
I was drinking like that for almost 20 years and one day I started drinking daily and I've never had it under control since
Sorry you're having problems. I'm not. I don't even like being drunk or the consequences the next day. As I've said numerous times in this thread it's not about the alcohol it's just the only thing that works quick enough to be effective. I've tried other methods to destress and while some of them work they weren't effective enough to get the job done in the 1-2 hours of free time I have on a week night. It's either have a drink or stare at the wall waiting to go to bed because everything I try to do just makes it worse. I'm certainly open to healthier solutions but so far no one has had anything to offer me besides judgement for doing the one thing that works.
To be clear this isn't a daily occurance it's just when I have high stress days at work.
Its insidious how the progression goes. Im in the same boat. Recovering alcoholic, 18mo sober, AA meetings. I too was deeply insistent tgat my drinking was normal, controlled, and healthy, right up until it almost killed me