As someone who doesn't get the gender feelies at all, dresses and sarongs are cool (as in, good for warm weather). High socks are so amazing that everyone wore them for much of the middle ages (they're warm!). Called hosen wool socks and a tunic was ordinary commoner attire. (And yes, your nethers and janglies were free to the open air underneath. Laundry without machines was too labor intensive for non-nobles to have underwear.)

Makeup is weird, but looking amazing is fun. (My experience with it was on stage, and putting on eyeliner was hard to do without flinching.)

While I can appreciate a cool tool (say tweezers with a magnifying lens attached) tactical stuff painted black doesn't make sense in contrast to stuff painted a bright color that can easily be seen (on the assumption that I'm not in combat hidden in cover), bright pink is fine except when everything else is also bright pink. (A lot of beach dayglo colors are meant to be well offset against the ocean greens and blues).

Now that's on the practical side. Some folks get a HUGE buzz from representing according to their gender identity. Trans folk know this because wearing the stuff they like is [regarded by others as] weird in contrast to the stuff that mom bought them while they were growing up, so they've had cause to actually explore this aspect of themselves.

But there are guys who like to double down on butchness and gals who like getting ready for the night out more than the going out, itself. And then there are dudes who, no matter how masculine they represent, feel inadequate and wussy, which likely informs alpha male rhetoric and the far-right man-o-sphere pundits.

[–] Draconic_NEO@pawb.social 16 points 6 days ago* (last edited 6 days ago) (2 children)

I'm the same way, I don't get gender feels either 🖤🩶🤍💚🤍🩶🖤, and I would very much agree with most of this except the part about having contrasting colors. I do think that having bright colors in contrast with darker ones does look cool, even if it is less practical.

I'm also not really a big fan of makeup, it feels very weird. Maybe I'd be okay with it if I wanted/needed to look a certain way for some kind of performance or special event but otherwise I'd just rather keep my face clean.

Edit: Okay who downvoted this, someone upset that I'm unapologetically Agender? Well get used to it bitch I'm not sorry about who I am, and certainly not in LGBTQ friendly spaces.

[–] Hupf 6 points 6 days ago (1 children)

Edit: Okay who downvoted this, someone upset that I'm unapologetically Agender?

Not the downvoter. If I had to guess, maybe they had strong feelings against

presenting your personals before the point (as in off-topic/look at me)
pushing the agender agenda
emoji usage on Lemmy
they just hate LGBTQA people, who knows

People will downvote and block nowadays rather than give feedback and discuss. Probably also an effect of information overdosing on the Internet.

[–] Draconic_NEO@pawb.social 8 points 6 days ago* (last edited 6 days ago)

Probably very likely the last one, I do know that downvoting people for being openly queer is unfortunately common. It was a big problem on Reddit. I once saw a person in r/SwitchPirates being downvoted because she was a trans girl who was openly trans.

Also I feel like the second one is the same as the last one since there really isn't an Agender, NonBinary, Gay, or Trans agenda, that's just queerphobes who want to make out Queer people to be some kind of bad guys to fight against, rather than people who just want to exist and be recognized.

[–] uriel238@lemmy.blahaj.zone 3 points 6 days ago (1 children)

I don't see downvotes here on Blåhaj, but I'll respond to rumors of them with LGBT+ memes.

Here it comes.

[–] Draconic_NEO@pawb.social 3 points 5 days ago

Lemmy.blahaj.zone has downvotes disabled but they're still allowed for some reason in the remote versions of communities hosted on it, and on accounts non native to blahaj they still do federate to other instances. Maybe it would be worth suggesting a change to this to disallow downvotes in remote copies of communties hosted by instances which disable them.

[–] VeganCheesecake@lemmy.blahaj.zone 8 points 6 days ago (1 children)

Find out, try it.

[–] Draconic_NEO@pawb.social 2 points 4 days ago

Would definitely recommend it. Especially thigh highs, they are very comfy.

CC: @asudox@discuss.tchncs.de

[–] Draconic_NEO@pawb.social 13 points 6 days ago (1 children)

Personally I think so, especially thigh highs, they are very comfy. Oversize hoodies are also very nice as well.

[–] _cryptagion@lemmy.dbzer0.com 4 points 6 days ago (1 children)

Now see, I’m on board with anything that doesn’t hug my legs too tight like this. My leg hairs are so long that it bothers me were I to wear thigh highs.

[–] Draconic_NEO@pawb.social 3 points 6 days ago

Fair enough, I don't have that issue but I could definitely understand why that would be a reason people would want to avoid something tight like thigh highs.