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Wanted kids, got married and careered at the right time to fund kids, then wife had a major mental breakdown after funking out of college, developed schizophrenia, and now has the mentality of a kid. Some days a toddler, some days a high schooler. I've been the only household income since marriage year 2, and I can't afford to deal with a pregnancy from that mental state or be basically a single parent afterward.
I'm considering adoption of teens after I retire and the assumed passing of my wife as she has a small pile of other health issues at this point slowly eating away at her.
Your positive energy supported her, and what goes around comes around.
Giles?
Is it a reference I don't get, or do you happen to know someone else in a strikingly similar situation?
Ah yeah the latter. Sorry, I don't know what kind of answer I was expecting there. He's a really well-rounded guy with a great career, nice house, but his partner has always been on the rocky side and then she developed a mental illness that has addled her brain to that of pure paranoia, or to that of a child. I don't know how he copes to be honest, but he exhudes a calm confidence that seems to defy the situation he is in