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Yeah I had a major issue with CBT because it's essentially gaslighting yourself.
Do you mind expanding? I don't know much about CBT, but I am curious about it. Tbh I tried therapy once with like a few sessions and I didn't really like the therapist because she was 30 mins late to each session and would try to tell me things that I felt were untrue. Would be curious to know if I attempt therapy again what sort of things to look for or avoid. I know CBT is one of the "trendiest" therapies these days but I don't know much about it.
CBT tells you to be aware of your surroundings and to question all of your negative thoughts to frame them in a more positive way. The problem I had with it is that all negative thoughts are not invalid, and tricking yourself into thinking they are is basically gaslighting yourself. Also, when I was in a rough spot and having a hard time figuring out what to do, questioning all of my thoughts just led to more distrust in myself, which had a negative effect on my mental health, not positive.
I don't think CBT is necessarily bad when used in the right situations, but it is definitely not a cure-all like the current buzz about it tries to sell it as and it can absolutely have a negative impact.
I know exactly what you mean. I was like that for so long, and for me, for some reason, one moment about 25 years ago everything changed and my general perspective that I had had for so long shifted, and I found a way to let go of the negativity and instead embrace the positivity. The whole moment lasted maybe a minute, and after that my life was different. No drugs or anything involved. I was literally just standing in my doorway looking at some tall grass blowing in the wind, noticing the beauty that was right there waiting to be found.
That's probably not helpful because there's no way I could help somebody find what I experienced, but maybe it'll be hopeful.
The human psyche is really complicated.
It is for sure. I'm glad you had that experience.