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Anon explained why he didn't consider he was being creepy and (girl) didn't counter it and didn't mention it again. What does that mean?
"Anon's" opinion on whether it's creepy or not counts for absolutely nothing.
Again, it wasn't a social cue and "anon" didn't miss it - girl directly expressed her opinion and instead of accepting it, "anon" argued against it, then ignored it That's not only creepy, but borderline abusive.
I believe the context for your query was that i missed a social que. However within context, she found it creepy i "stalked" her. To which i clarified it was not my intent to stalk or be creepy but was simply just being friendly, as i do with all my friends regardless of sex.
Yep - I figured this was just anon hoping for a different answer from a different audience.
Again, your intent doesn't matter and there was no social cue that you missed. The girl clearly expressed her view and you didn't do her even the simple courtesy of believing her. That's not what friends do. That's what stalkers do.
Autism as an excuse can only go so far. When you go past the point at which you simply fail to pick up on non-verbal cues to the point at which you dispute and disregard other people's clearly stated preferences, it no longer applies. That's not autism - it's antisocial personality disorder. You're not just failing to understand what other people expect, but refusing to treat them as beings with rights. You're treating them as mere objects rightly subject to your will and your preferences.
Ok buddy, listen i have kept every comment ive left informational and went through extra effort to be polite and curious to eveyone.
And your comment is shit dude, not because of the information but the feed back you gave was disrespectful, unempathetic and not even constructive at best.
And i made a post about asking for advice, to which the title was not "im right, " or anything of the sorts because i actually wanted people to form there own opinion. Because what is feedback if its all circual jerking, if you want that go to reddit.
And saying i disrespect (girl) is just untrue, you may not know me. But lots of people in this post or in other communitys. Know i go out of my way to not be a fucking pick and be respectful. And to go to the term that i objectified her is repulsive and completely untrue! And more sounds like your reaching just to try to make yourself feel better about being asshole.
This 100%. There's some good, constructive advice in these comments and this is very much not it. Just a person with allism who wants to feel superior and put down people looking to better themselves. Calling you an antisocial creep and saying you're objectifying her is the least charitable read possible and not what you deserve
"Autism as an excuse can only go so far" allism as an excuse can only go so far to explain why you need to be such an absolute cunt to decent people who don't understand the lies you tell and are trying their best. Learn some empathy asshole