Neurodivergence

Thanks to whoever made this place on lemmy! It has been an important and awesome resource on reddit and NDs are the first who should leave reddit immediately since the toxic leadership decisions. It’s wonderful to see that we now have a place here! <3

A neurodivergent friend sent me a link to this site and I thought it's worth sharing here for more folks to see.

Basically it's a TODO list that breaks down tasks in micro-steps using AI to make it a bit easier for people who have a hard time starting a task.

An example for "Clean my room":

Many folks in these communities mention listening to podcasts, whether utilizing them as a strategy for long drives or mundane tasks or listening more regularly.

Let’s share our top podcasts! To make this a easy resource for our growing community, please reply to the appropriate parent comment based on podcast topic:

• ADHD podcasts
• ASD podcasts
• Both ADHD and ASD/neurodivergence in general
• Other neat podcasts (unrelated to neurodivergence)

It is one of my biggest pet peeves surrounding how people often misunderstand performance for someone with ADHD like myself. Of course everyone makes mistakes from time to time, but those with ADHD often struggle with making little mistakes, and often have to try even harder to avoid those types of mistakes. I care deeply about my work, and I struggled in my younger years with feelings of inadequacy, and when people chalked my mistakes or under-performing to some sort of moral failing, it really hurt. These days, through better understanding of ADHD, and how my brain works and what its quirks are, I don't feel inadequate, but I still get angry when I encounter it. Don't you dare tell me I don't care about my work because I made a mistake.

For the curious, I did this in my code: {{ conditional }} instead of {% conditional %} in a Twig template by accident.

It's even better when thou canstn't take your mind off the project but also cansn't get up to do the project because thou hast become too engrossed in the other task

I have ADHD diagnosed in my 30's, and can't seem to remember names even seconds after they are said. Sometimes I try so hard that I can't follow the conversation because I'm focusing on repeating their name over and over so I don't forget.

Inevitably I focus back on the conversation and the person's name is lost.

Texting their name to me tends to work, but others tend to find this odd/annoying/off-putting if I halt an organic conversation to text myself their name. And can even find it quite disrespectful.

So, Title: Have any of you "cracked" how to remember names in active conversation?

Hi all,

I have fairly severe ADHD and I take Concerta (27+18mg) and Ritalin (20mg) daily. I have a bunch of tools I have found helpful for managing my life including the ADHD symptoms and thought I would share some here.

Telegram - I use Telegram as my phone brain, a place I put information so it is out of my brain. I put in meds (I copy and paste almost every time) and because I do it so regularly it is actually part of taking meds now. I therefore know when I took my meds last to within a couple of minutes and can use that to make sure I don't miss or double up. I also use scheduled messages up to months in advance for things like car registration, booking my psychiatrist appointment, or knowing when to take my cat to the vet.

Alarms - I use a few alarms which are countdowns from when I did something regular. For example, I take my Concerta in the morning, set a 6.5hour timer, then I am reminded to take my Ritalin. I do the same for pain meds or other meds as needed. This means I have a countdown in my tray the whole time which helps to keep it in mind.

Banking - I switched to a digital only bank and was able to finally automate almost all of my major transactions. My pay comes in, rent goes out, money gets sent to various other accounts like savers for specific goals or transactions accounts. By making my fuel always come from the same place every time and making sure my fuel budget always transfers through to there I never have to worry, I just know that I have fuel money there.

Physicality - I need to be physically active. I was working in IT for a decade and it was not so slowly killing me. I now earn basically the same driving a truck and lifting heavy things all day. I am less stressed and I have a clear career ahead of me as I upgrade my licences and competencies. I am happier with more physical activity but trying to fit it in on the weekend or evenings was just a losing proposition for me, I work now for money and health and it is way better.

Anyway, that's a few thoughts, I hope someone finds them useful.

ADHD and autism are both strongly correlated with justice sensitivity. If you need an explanation for what that is, here's a quote from this article:

Justice sensitivity is the tendency to notice and identify wrong-doing and injustice and have intense cognitive, emotional, and behavioral reactions to that injustice. People who are justice sensitive tend to notice injustice more often than others, they tend to ruminate longer and more intensely on that injustice, and they feel a stronger need to restore justice.

Do y'all experience this? If so, how does it manifest?

For me, I can't see injustice and do nothing. Failing to stand up for my beliefs makes me hate myself, and I'll usually do it even if I know it's a bad idea or I'm surrounded by people who disagree--if anything, I feel more compelled to do it then. Since some of my beliefs are wildly unpopular, this often winds up in me feeling ostracized, rejected, and depressed.

I don't know what to do about this. I can't just not stand up for what I believe in--it's clearly the right thing to do. But it's a deeply unpleasant experience I keep repeating. I'll choose standing up for my beliefs over not being hurt if I have to, but that doesn't make it fun.

I've used https://reddit.com/r/cptsd as a support group for awhile. It never felt right to post such sensitive discussions onto a platform controlled by a tech company trying to monetize its content, so I was really happy when things like Lemmy began taking off. In my opinion, support communities belong in user-owned spaces like this.

I use Beehaw as a provider, and I thought it might be a good place to host a CPTSD community because of Beehaw's rules and ethos. I had a look at what's existing, and this is the closest one I could find. There's !cptsd@lemmy.ml (am I referring to that correctly?), but it's dead.

Is anyone aware of a good CPTSD community, or would there be interest/support in creating one on Beehaw?

Edit: I've inquired to see how this works: https://beehaw.org/post/554142

As someone with ADHD I find it’s a common experience for many that we stay up all night. I’ve fought that in the past but now I kinda feel like I should just accept it. Go to bed late, get up late. However that’s not very conducive to a normal business routine.

How do you all handle your mornings and nights? Is it worth it even to try to change?

Synesthesia is when two senses combine with each other and form relationships. For example, I have the most common kind: grapheme-color synesthesia. Mine looks like this. The only one that's supposed to be black is "1". Otherwise, the ones in black have no color associated with them.

Thought I'd get the ball rolling as this is empty!

I'm neamhsplach, I'm undiagnosed but I'm being screened for possible ADHD and/or dyspraxia because of some issues I've had with work.

I love Taskmaster and never miss an episode of The Blindboy Podcast. Looking forward to chatting to you all!